I Am Mom! Enough! Carnival buttonWelcome to the I Am Mom! Enough! Carnival hosted by Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama and Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children.

This Carnival is dedicated to empowering ALL parents who practice and promote and peaceful, loving, attachment parenting philosophy. We have asked other parents to help us show the critics and the naysayers that attachment parenting is beautiful, uplifting, and unbelievably beneficial and NORMAL!

In addition to the Carnival, Joni from Tales of a Kitchen Witch and Jennifer from True Confessions of a Real Mommy are co-hosting a Linky Party. Please stop by either blog to share any of your posts on the topic.

Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants. Post topics are wide and varied, and every one is worth a read.

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What A Mom Wants!

A mom wants nothing more than the best for their children.  A mom will take the tears and pain away from their children, if given the chance.   A mom will do anything they feel is right by their children to see the best possible outcome.

What a mom wants:

  • A healthy child
  • A well adjusted child
  • A happy child
  • A smart child
  • A successful child
  • A kind child
  • A brave child
  • An honest child

Just because we typically want the same thing for our children, we might not take the same path to get from point A to point B.  Some mothers may have drastic variations in particular parenting practices but at the same time be very similar in other practices.  I am sure you remember the infamous Time magazine cover which shocked many while liberating others.  It led to many “are you mom enough” conversations, debates and even arguments.

My initial thoughts about the cover of Time magazine:

  • Ahh, finally a picture of breastfeeding on the cover of  a major magazine!!!!!!!
  • Hmm, impressive but not my personal choice to breastfeed for that period of time.
  • Power to women (including all infant feeding women- formula, breast for 2 days or 7 years- either way, VERY POWERFUL)
  • Ouch!!! -slightly harsh words used on the cover.

“Are you mom enough?”  – not the best wording as I am sure it offended many women.  However, I wish it did not turn women against each other in controversy.

As women who want the same outcome for our children, shouldn’t we support each other?  Maybe we might not agree on everything as mothers but I am most certain there will be more things we agree on than disagree- so why inhibit an opportunity of learning from each other?

I agree or disagree with many ideologies in life but I try to learn a lesson in everything presented to me.  I look for the benefits and the disadvantages that are specific for me only.  I try to make an educated decision that is best for my family based on our beliefs, values and traditions.

I try not to judge others as I am not in their home or world.  If we are all want the same outcome, maybe we can learn a little from each other?  I am willing.  Are you?

I blog about Baby Led Weaning with a Twist, homemade baby food, picky eating and family recipes.  I am a Registered Dietitian and a mother of two children who believes every parent should make choices specific to their family based on a variety of views.

Thank you to Time because I feel liberated to share my breastfeeding photos!    A child eating is a child eating, nothing more.

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Thank you for visiting the I Am Mom! Enough! Carnival hosted by hosted by Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama and Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children.
Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants and check out previous posts at the linky party hosted by Joni from Tales of a Kitchen Witch and Jennifer from True Confessions of a Real Mommy:
(This list will be live and updated by afternoon May 28 with all the carnival links.)

  • Good Enough? — Jennifer at True Confessions of a Real Mommy writes about how Good Enough is not Good Enough, if you use it as an excuse to stop trying.
  • The High Cost of High Expectations JeninCanada at Fat and Not Afraid shares what it’s like to NOT feel ‘mom enough’ and wanting to always do better for herself and family.
  • TIME to Be You! — Becky at Old New Legacy encourages everyone to be true to themselves and live their core values.
  • I am mom and I have had ENOUGH — A mother had had ENOUGH of the mommy wars.
  • Motherhood vs. Feminism — Doula Julia at juliamannes.com encourages feminists to embrace the real needs and cycles and strengths of women.
  • There Is No Universal Truth When It Comes To Parenting — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama discusses how parenting looks around the world and why there is no universal parenting philosophy.
  • Attachment Parenting Assumptions — ANonyMous at Radical Ramblings argues that attachment parenting is not just for the affluent middle-classes, and that as parents we all need to stop worrying about our differences and start supporting each other.
  • Thoughts on Time Magazine, Supporting ALL Mamas, and Advocating for the Motherless — Time Magazine led That Mama Gretchen to think about her calling as a mother and how adoption will play an important role in growing her family.
  • Attachment Parenting: the Renewed Face of Feminism — Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children embraces her inner feminist as she examines how the principles of attachment parenting support the equal treatment of all.
  • What a Mom Wants! — Clancy Harrison from Healthy Baby Beans writes about how women need to support each other in their different paths to get to the same destination.
  • Attachment Parenting: What One Family Wants You To Know — Jennifer, Kris, 4 year old Owen and 2 year old Sydney share the realities of attachment parenting, and how very different it looks than the media’s portrayal.
  • We ALL Are Mom Enough — Amy W. of Amy Willa: Me, Mothering, and Making It All Work thinks that all mothers should walk together through parenthood and explores her feelings in prose.
  • A Typical Day Kat at Loving {Almost} Every Moment shares what a typical day with her attached family looks like…all in the hopes to shed light on what Attachment Parenting is, what it’s not and that it’s unique within each family!
  • The Proof is in the (organic, all-natural) Pudding — Kym at Our Crazy Corner of the World talks about how, contrary to what the critics say, the proof that attachment parenting works in visible in the children who are parented that way.
  • I am mom and I have had ENOUGH A mother had had ENOUGH of the mommy wars.
  • Time Magazine & Mommy Wars: Enough! What Really Matters? — Abbie at Farmer’s Daughter encourages moms to stop fighting with each other, and start alongside each other.
  • Attachment parenting is about respect — Lauren at Hobo Mama breaks down what attachment parenting means to her to its simplest level.
  • I am an AP mom, regardless… — Jorje ponders how she has been an Attachment Parenting mom regardless of outside circumstances at Momma Jorje.
  • The first rule of Attachment Parenting is: You Do Not Talk about Attachment Parenting — Emily discusses, with tongue aqnd cheek, how tapping into our more primal selves actually brings us closer to who we are rather than who we think we should be.
  • Mom, I am. — Amy at Anktangle discusses how Attachment Parenting is a natural extension of who she is, and she explains the ways her parenting approach follows the “live and let live” philosophy, similar to her beliefs about many other areas of life.

About the author: Clancy Cash Harrison MS, RD, LDN

7 Comments

  1. Thank you so much for particpating in the Carnival. I think the intro of your post pretty much sums all of this crazyness up! All moms want the same basic things and we need to stop battling each other over how we get there.

    And I completely agree with you about the Time cover. At least there is a breastfeeding photo on a major magazine cover. I think that even though a war is waging over it, the end result will be positive. A step is a step no matter which direction it is in!

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  2. Great post Clancy! Yes, we all want the same thing for our children and it’s terrible when some moms feel they have to tear each other down.

    The Time cover definitely sparked some conversation and while I’m happy to see the pro-breastfeeding message, I really didn’t like the photo. I mean who has their child breastfeed while standing on a stool?

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  3. I agree, it would be nice to see mothers support each other more. No one way is the correct way and we all have a reason for choosing the parenting paths that we are on. Kudos to you!

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  4. Ouch! I don’t like to see the “mommy wars”… when I was your age none of that went on. We worked together for good. Some of those blogs are really strong in their opinions and I hope that they remember that they don’t need to prove anything to anyone but their significant other and their baby. There’s lots of year ahead for all of you young moms. Listen to the older women who have been through all of this. There’s much to be said for experience. :o ) With much love gal I love your blog entries! xxoo

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  5. That picture just made me smile. =) I breastfed all 4 of my kids. It was the most amazing time when one of them was nursing. Our sweet time to share together. I miss those days! Parenting isn’t easy and we need the support of other moms, not to be against each other.

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  6. We have to stop comparing ourselves to others and believe in ourselves.

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  7. Hear hear! I guess you’re right in that any picture showing breastfeeding can only work to normalise it. It’s just a shame it was framed in such a manner.
    Great post.

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